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30 Beautiful Hadiths and Quranic Verses on The E...: 30 Beautiful Hadiths and Quranic Verses on The Etiquettes of Speech !   1. “And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they r...

30 Beautiful Hadiths and Quranic Verses on The Etiquettes of Speech ! 

1. “And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with ‘Salamaa’ (peaceful words of gentleness).”(Qur’an, 25:63)

 2. “If they pass by some vain speech or play, they pass by it with dignity.” (Qur’an, 25:72)

 3. “And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys… But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book.”(Qur’an, 31:19-20)

 4. The Prophet Muhammad s.a.w (peace be upon him) said: “He who gave up disputing while he is right, a palace of high rank in Paradise will be built for him. He who gave up disputing while he is a fabricator, a palace in the center of Paradise will be built for him.” (al-Tirmidhi who declared it as hasan)

5. “There are no people who went astray after having been guided except for indulging in disputation.” (al-Tirmidhi)

6. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w repeated three times, “Those who search deeply for confusing questions have perished.”(Muslim)

7. “Do not dispute with your brother, ridicule him, nor promise him and then break your promise.” (al-Tirmidhi)

8. Bilal ibn Sa’d radiAllahu `anhu (ra) said, “If you see a disputing, arrogant, and bigoted person, bear in mind that they are utterly lost.”

9. Luqman `alayhi assalam (as) said to his son, “O son! Do not dispute with the knowledgeable lest they detest you.”

10. `Umar (ra) said, “Do not learn knowledge for three things and do not leave it for three things. Do not learn it to dispute over it, to show off with it, or to boast about it. Do not leave seeking it out of shyness, dislike for it, or contending with ignorance in its stead.”

11. It was narrated that Abu Hanifa said to Dawud al-Taa’i, “Why do you prefer seclusion?” Dawud replied, “To struggle against myself to leave disputing.” Abu Hanifah said, “Attend meetings, listen to what is said, and remain silent.” Dawud said, “I have done so, but I have found nothing heavier than this.”

12. `A’ishah (ra) narrated that the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w said, “The most hated person with Allah is the most quarrelsome person.” (al-Bukhari)

13. Ibn Qutaybah said that his disputant said to him, “What is the matter with you?” He replied to him, “I will not dispute with you.” The disputant then said, “Thus you have come to know that I am right.” Ibn Qutaybah responded, “No, but I respect myself more than that.” At this the disputant retracted and said, “And I will not claim a thing that is not my right.”

14. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w said: “The one initiating abuse incurs the sin of abusing as long as the other did not return it.” (Muslim)

15. “The believer does not curse.” (al-Tirmidhi who declared it hasan)

16. “The believer does not defame, abuse, disparage, nor vilify.” (al-Tirmidhi, sahih)

17. “Do not invoke Allah’s curse, His anger, or Hellfire.” (al-Tirmidhi who declared it hasan sahih)

18. “Men accustomed to cursing will not be intercessors or witnesses on the Day of Resurrection.” (Muslim 

19. Abdullah ibn ‘Amr (ra) narrated, “I asked the Messenger of Allah s.a.w about what saves me from Allah’s wrath, and he said, “Do not become angry.” (al-Tabarani and Ibn Abdul Barr) Ibn `Umar, Ibn Mas’ud, and Abu Darda’ (ra) relate similar conversations on their own behalf.

20. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w said, “He who is victorious over his passion at the time of anger is the strongest among you. He who forgives having the power to release (his anger and take revenge) is the most patient among you.” (a-Baihaqi in Shu’ab al-Imaan)

21. Abu Hurairah (ra) narrated, “The Messenger of Allah s.a.w said, ‘The strong person is not he who has physical strength but the person is strong if he can control his anger.” (al-Bukhari and Muslim)

22. `Umar ibn Abdul Aziz wrote to one of his governors and said, “Do not punish at the time of anger. If you are angry with any man, keep him in detention. When your anger is appeased punish him in proportion to his crime.”

23. ‘Ali ibn Zaid mentioned, “A man of the Quraysh spoke harshly to the Caliph `Umar Ibn ‘Abdul ‘Aziz who remained silent for a long time and then said, “You wish that the devil rouses in me the pride of the Caliphate and I treat you so rudely that you can take revenge tomorrow (in the Afterlife) on me.”

24. Ibn ‘Abbas (ra) narrated, the Messenger of Allah s.a.w said, “And when you get angry, keep silent.” (Ahmad, Ibn Abi Dunya, al-Tabarani, and al-Bayhaqi)

25. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w said, “Anger is a burning coal. It burns in the heart.” (al-Tirmidhi and al-Bayhaqi)

26. “When anyone of you gets angry, let him perform ablution because anger arises from fire.” (Abu Dawud)

27. “Nobody swallows a more bitter pill than that of anger—seeking the satisfaction of Allah.” (Ibn Majah)

28. `Umar (ra) said, “He who fears Allah cannot give an outlet to his anger (by sinning). He who fears Allah cannot do what he likes.”

29. A nomad said to the Messenger of Allah s.a.w “Advise me.” And he  ss.a.waid, “If a man defamed you with what he knows about you, do not defame him with what you know about him. For the sin is against him.” The nomad said, “I never abused any person after that.”

30. Al-Hasan (ra) said, “He that did not safeguard his tongue did not understand his religion.”

You thought it was over didn’t you? 

Here is a little something extra to encourage us not only to avoid such negative traits, but to also proactively seek positive ones in their place.

 10 Reasons to Strive for Generosity of Spirit and Kindness in Speech

1. The Messenger of Allah s.a.w said, “Kind speech and feeding (the hungry) guarantee you Paradise.” (al-Tabarani)

2. “And speak nicely to people.” (Qur’an, 2:83)

3. “When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it, or (at least) return it equally.” (Qur’an, 4:86) Ibn Abbas commented on this and said, “He who greets you return his greeting in better words even if he were a Magian.1 He also said, “If Pharoah were to speak nicely to me, I would do so to him.”

4. Anas (ra) narrated that the Messenger of Allah s.a.w said, “Verily there are chambers in Paradise; their insides and outsides can be seen – for him who spoke kindly and fed (the hungry).” (al-Tirmidhi)

5. He s.a.w also said, “A good word is also a charitable deed.”(Muslim)

6. “Ward off the Fire even if by giving half a date in charity. If you could not afford that then utter a kind word.” (al-Bukhari and Muslim)

7. `Umar (ra) said, “Generosity is an easy thing. It is a smiling face and kind words.”

8. Some wise men said, “Do not be stingy with a word that does not arouse your Lord’s wrath yet it pleases your brother. It may happen that Allah gives you the reward of those who do good works.”

9. “And let not those among you who are blessed with graces and wealth swear not to give to their kinsmen, the poor, and those who left their homes for Allah’s cause. Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not wish that Allah should forgive you?”(Qur’an, 24:22). Abu Bakr (ra) had cut off his financial support of his relative Mustah because Mustah had participated in the slander against his daughter `A’ishah (ra). After this verse was revealed, he resumed and even increased the amount he gave Mustah in financial support.

10. “Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish.” (Qur’an, 7:199)

Islamic Lifestyle: The Major Sins The major sins are those acts whi...

Islamic Lifestyle:
The Major Sins
The major sins are those acts whi...: The Major Sins  The major sins are those acts which have been forbidden by Allah in the Quran and by His Messenger (salallahu alayhi ...

• The Major Sins 


The major sins are those acts which have been forbidden by Allah in the Quran and by His Messenger (salallahu alayhi wasalam) in the Sunnah (practise of the Prophet), and which have been made clear by the actions of of the first righteous generation of Muslims, the Companions of the Prophet (salallahu alayhi wasalam).


Allah Most High says in His Glorious Book:


If you avoid the major (part) of what you have been forbidden (to do), We will cancel out for you your (other) evil deeds and will admit you (to Paradise) with a noble entry. (al-Nisa 4:31)

 
Thus by this verse, Allah Most High has guaranteed the Garden of Paradise to those who avoid the major sins. 
And Allah Most High also says:


Surely, Allah does not forgive associating anything with Him, and He forgives whatever is other than that to whomever He wills. (al-Nisa 4:48 and 116)


Those who avoid the greatest of sins and indecencies, and forgive when they are angry (al-Shra 42:37)


Those who avoid the greatest sins and indecencies, except for oversights, (will find that) surely your Lord is ample in forgiveness. (Al-Najm 53:32)

01. Associating anything with Allah
02. Murder
03. Practising magic
04. Not Praying
05. Not paying Zakat
06. Not fasting on a Day of Ramadan without excuse
07. Not performing Hajj, while being able to do so
08. Disrespect to parents
09. Abandoning relatives
10. Fornication and Adultery
11. Homosexuality(sodomy)
12. Interest(Riba)
13. Wrongfully consuming the property of an orphan
14. Lying about Allah and His Messenger
15. Running away from the battlefield
16. A leader's deceiving his people and being unjust to them
17. Pride and arrogance
18. Bearing false witness
19. Drinking Khamr (wine)
20. Gambling
21. Slandering chaste women
22. Stealing from the spoils of war
23. Stealing
24. Highway Robbery
25. Taking false oath
26. Oppression
27. Illegal gain
28. Consuming wealth acquired unlawfully
29. Committing suicide
30. Frequent lying
31. Judging unjustly
32. Giving and Accepting bribes
33. Woman's imitating man and man's imitating woman
34. Being cuckold (A man whose wife is unfaithful )
35. Marrying a divorced woman in order to make her lawful for the husband
36. Not protecting oneself from urine
37. Showing-off
38. Learning knowledge of the religion for the sake of this world and concealing that knowledge
39. Bertrayal of trust
40. Recounting favours
41. Denying Allah's Decree
42. Listening (to) people's private conversations
43. Carrying tales
44. Cursing
45. Breaking contracts
46. Believing in fortune-tellers and astrologers
47. A woman's bad conduct towards her husband
48. Making statues and pictures
49. Lamenting, wailing, tearing the clothing, and doing other things of this sort when an affliction befalls
50. Treating others unjustly
51. Overbearing conduct toward the wife, the servant, the weak, and animals
52. Offending one's neighbour
53. Offending and abusing Muslims
54. Offending people and having an arrogant attitude toward them
55. Trailing one's garment in pride
56. Men's wearing silk and gold
57. A slave's running away from his master
58. Slaughtering an animal which has been dedicated to anyone other than Allah
59. To knowingly ascribe one's paternity to a father other than one's own
60. Arguing and disputing violently
61. Witholding excess water
62. Giving short weight or measure
63. Feeling secure from Allah's Plan
64. Offending Allah's righteous friends
65. Not praying in congregation but praying alone without an excuse
66. Persistently missing Friday Prayers without any excuse
67. Unsurping the rights of the heir through bequests
68. Deceiving and plotting evil
69. Spying for the enemy of the Muslims
70. Cursing or insulting any of the Companiions of Allah's Messenger




Source Book: The Major Sins Al-Kaba'r By Muhammad bin 'Uthman Adh-Dhahabi, rendered into English by Mohammad Moinuddin Siddiqui

The Sabr Series--Part III b)

Bismillahir Rahman nir Rahim

In the Name of Allah the most Beneficient

and Forgiving

Sabr IV

How has it been so far? Did you enjoy the journey till now? iA you did :)

Lets move on to the last 2 categories of Sabr:

ii)In the way of Obedience   of Allah swt.:

we have to do what Allah swt wants us to do, namely pray 5 times a day,give zakat, speak kindly to people, Not Lie, Stop gheebat , read the Quran regularly.

A very interesting point that I would like to mention here is that , to do all the above and more we need Sabr.

 The “will” to do the acts of obedience make us physically do the acts. But if we really want to do them in the best possible manner and hence gain the maximum reward, we need to have Sabr.

Now I see you asking me ”why sana”? well, the answer is, that as we start trying to increase our obedience to Allah swt, the shaitan gets after us with more intensity. To repell the accursed shaitan, we need to be patient to be “consistent in refusing the various treats the shaitan offers us if we don’t obey Allah swt.”.

 No one can attain Sabr by simply wishing it. One has to set “goals” .

For example: Zara has set her goals for “Acts Of Obedience”. They are as follows:

1.       Goals for Salah: 

atleast 1 rakat with concentration.

2.       Pray Salah at awaal waqt

3.      Proper wu’du

4.      Say bismillah before wu’du

5.      Read the shahada after wu’du

6.      Pray before one is too tired( specially isha)

7.      Learn and recite the duas in Ruku, sujood  (all these points are taken from how to increase khushoo in salah)

8.      Learn the last two ayats of Surah baqarah

9.      Recite Surah mulk every night

10.   Start reading Surah Kahf from thrusday after magrib.

You will need to personalize them according to what you need to do.

May Allah swt make it easy for you.. amen

iii) In the Acts of Disobedience to Allah swt:

1.       Learn anger management techniques

2.      Stop lying

3.      Stop gheebat

4.      Stop complaining

5.      Stop overspending

6.      Increase Fear of Allah swt

7.      Imagine the Day of Judgment and think of how would you like to be on that day as you feel the urge to gossip about a friend’s dress :)

8.      Imagine the horrors of the grave every time you feel lazy for getting up for fajr.

As I said before, you will need to personalize them  as per your needs.

      

Abu Yahya Suhayb ibn Sinan said, “The Messenger of Allah, may

Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘What an extraordinary thing the business of the believer is! All of it is good for him. And that only applies

to the believer. If good fortune is his lot, he is grateful and it is good for

him. If something harmful happens to him, he is steadfast and that is good for him too.’” [Muslim]

It is very interesting to note that the  prophet s.a.w NEVER disobeyed Allah swt.. and he never got angry or showed impatience.

So , lets focus on our acts of Obedience and Disobedience to Allah swt.

May Allah swt make it easy for us.. amen

Inshallah see you next time!!

The Sabr Series--Part 1

Bismillahir Rahman nir Rahim

In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent and the Most Forgiving.

The Sabr Series-I

,As we start on a road trip, we are faced with road blocks and speed breakers and scary jungles. And we have no choice except to clear these blocks, reduce our speed, and seek Allah Swt’s help for a safe passage through the unfriendly jungle..

If we cry and shout at each tire burst, each wrong turn, then we will be too drained out to reach on time and such emotions take half the fun out of driving as we miss the beautiful landscape painted for us by Allah swt.

Hence we need to prepare ourselves mentally and physically with all sorts of things like water, extra food, fuel, tires, for such situations.

This is exactly how the “road trip” of our lives is. We start our journey and our destination is paradise.

Allah swt warns us in the beginning of the journey that if we get stuck then we should “seek help through patience..”(2:45)

As Allah swt says “Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere”

 “Who, when disaster strikes them, say, "Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return."” 2 : 156

“Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided.”2 :157

In Surah Hud (11:11), Allah (S.W.T.) again promises to reward those who are patient in adversity:

Not so do those who show patience and constancy, and work righteousness; for them is forgiveness (of sins) and a great reward.

 What better reward than Allah’s mercy, guidance  and forgiveness?

The word Sabr in Arabic means to “control one self” when one is faced by something a person dislikes.

The Messenger of Allah sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam said, “Strange is the affair of the Mu’min (the believer), verily all his affairs are good for him. If something pleasing befalls him he thanks (Allah) and it becomes better for him. And if something harmful befalls him he is patient (Saabir) and it becomes better for him. And this is only for the Mu’mmin.

These rewards are proofs of Allah swt’s pleasure and inshallah will take us to jannah on the day of judgement.

So on this note. Lets begin the The Sabr Series, with the intention to please Allah swt and better our selves and the quality of our lives while we are in this Dunya.